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The Bucket List is way beyond the movie; it’s part of the lexicon, part of life—-the things you want to do before you die.
Lately it seems as if everyone and his dog has a Bucket List. Which is great. Up to a point.
There’s a place where the Buck(et) Stops. Where the brave and bold move beyond.
For me, the moment hit somewhere between thinking about getting a face-lift and getting my affairs in order. Not that I’ve done either one.
For baby boomers, the dawn of the new decade could be the perfect time.
It’s not about age; it’s about attitude.
You are ready to move Beyond the Bucket List when:
- The bucket is in sight-–and you have insight.
- You don’t have it ALL; but you have ENOUGH.
- You are thinking ahead—and behind.
- You want to GO—and also LET GO.
So go with it. Create a list that’s the flip side of the Bucket List.
I couldn’t avoid the obvious—-so call it: The F**k-it List.
Things you shoulda done, woulda done, coulda done—but know you won’t.
Things you are ready to cross off your Bucket List—with or without regret.
Since I’m making up the concept, I’m also making up the rules:
- Be honest. Be sure you have searched your soul and are ready to give something up.
- Be flexible—there’s no particular number of items. As you get older your Bucket List will get shorter; your F**k-it list will get longer.
- Be real. Pick things you had some legitimate possibility of accomplishing. In my case, it’s not likely that I’d win a Nobel Prize—-but in my fantasies, it’s possible I could sing onstage with Bruce Springsteen.
The most important feature is that you are not GIVING UP; you are GIVING permission; GIVING acceptance to the person who counts most—yourself.
It’s an easy way to assess where you are at this point in your life. Plus I promise a sense of relief and release comes from letting yourself off the hook. Permanently. Publicly.
So here goes:
MY F**K-IT LIST:
Get an advanced degree
Travel in space
Fit into the clothes from my past lives
Run a marathon
Climb a mountain
Have a completely clutter free house or a completely clean desk
Walk through an art museum and be able to appreciate everything
Learn what’s under the hood of a car
Throw a delicious meal together from random ingredients in the refrigerator
(This list would have one extra item but it still feels premature—-until the Boss stops performing, I’m hanging onto that remote chance I’ll get to sing with his band.)
To launch this concept as a meme, I’m posting my list on Facebook and tagging friends; I hope you’ll post your own F**k-it List and pass it forward.
(Especially recommended if you don’t keep New Year’s Resolutions but don’t want to feel bad about yourself. LOL)
Also posted on the Huffington Post
Love this Darryle. I have to say 3 years ago when I career and life transitioned,it was the beginning of a F**K It List I didn’t know I was going to live.
I moved after living ALL my life in Miami/Ft Laud, to SWFL where I didn’t know one person. That plan A didn’t work out. I didn’t think for a minute I’d need a B plan, but my God had other ideas for me.
so I stayed and in Feb 07 I launched my own business..that was on my FIt list
here goes..
be an entrepreneur and help people
write books (my first EBook is ready for launch)
write more songs (just got a royalty check for one I wrote in 1980)
travel more
volunteer to educate women in countries where they are not yet empowered
bicycle cross country
be on Oprah
live not needing anything material
let my hair go naturally silver
make more friends
what shall we do together? Maybe cook that meal?
re ‘what would darryle say’……and the **-list?
That’s what I’m talkin about!
You constantly surprise me, Darryle: I didn’t know you were a singer. You might have some pull with “The Boss”; he shares our birth year!
Deborah–good for you, if we’re going to cook that meal hope it’s not with ingredients from MY refrigerator.
Gayle: Hope you’ve got your list done!
Mark: I said it’s a fantasy. I’d be really happy to stand behind him and play the tambourine.
DP, you may have to go shopping then and get us at least some staples, like beans and peas?
Why did I miss this one? It’s hysterical… thank you twitter and Huffpost.
I’m of to facebook to be your friend
Ciao
Eleonora xx
Here’s our short list:
Travel in time
Kill a zombie
Be royalty
Thanks, so glad to see your list! I should post some of the other great items I’ve been seeing, thanks so much for sharing the F**k it list on Facebook too.
This is hilarious! I am so glad we met. Now I must get to work on my list…
1. Watch the aurora borealis from a dogsled in Alaska
2. Be on a talk show.
3. Get a jewel in my belly button.
Love your list, Jamie, You’re hilarious.
Moved three more things from BUcket to F**kit list:
-Care about our finances.
-Learn to gallop on a horse.
-Take up skiing again.
Phew! I feel lighter already!
When are we going to tweetup again?
Jamie
sandra and i did the 10 mile walk yesterday in the big sur marathon. it was quite extraordinary. i think the walk is cooler than the marathon. somehow this F**K It List reminded me of something barbara streisand used to say: “i don’t want much, i just want more.”
Love that—I don’t want much; I just want more.
The walk is far more my speed in every way–and that is NOT going on the F**k-it list—might have to join you two next year.
My F*ck it List:
Meet a Unicorn
Train a monkey
Own a Lamborghini