Comments for Darryle Pollack | I never signed up for this... http://blog.darrylepollack.com confessions of a cluttered mind Wed, 22 Feb 2012 17:50:30 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on An unromantic proposal: spectacle or sentiment? by margaret http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/an-unromantic-proposal-spectacle-or-sentiment/comment-page-1/#comment-7538 margaret Wed, 22 Feb 2012 17:50:30 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19710#comment-7538 As a church musician, what makes me shake my head is that, with all the obsessing over the ring, the proposal, the reception details, the first dance, the dress, etc., the church and, equally important, the music for their wedding ceremony seem to come in dead last. Assuming that the couple want a church wedding (many couples do not go this route anymore) I've seen brides (and, inevitably their mothers) check out churches solely on the color of the carpeting or the length of the aisle. Priorities, people! As a church musician, what makes me shake my head is that, with all the obsessing over the ring, the proposal, the reception details, the first dance, the dress, etc., the church and, equally important, the music for their wedding ceremony seem to come in dead last. Assuming that the couple want a church wedding (many couples do not go this route anymore) I’ve seen brides (and, inevitably their mothers) check out churches solely on the color of the carpeting or the length of the aisle. Priorities, people!

]]> Comment on An unromantic proposal: spectacle or sentiment? by Wendi Knox http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/an-unromantic-proposal-spectacle-or-sentiment/comment-page-1/#comment-7536 Wendi Knox Wed, 22 Feb 2012 16:02:00 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19710#comment-7536 I have been married for 25 years and still revel in the way we got engaged. After only being together a few months, Will rented a little guesthouse in Hana (one of the last vestiges of "Old Hawaii.") Everyone was sure he'd propose to me there. But I was so happy to have finally found my soulmate after so many years of wondering if he existed, that it didn't matter to me that he didn't. After Hana,we flew to S.F. for the Jewish holidays. I found out later, that Will had planned to propose to me on a cable car--something he had fantasized about since he was a child. But leave it to me, toI was too cold that night to take a cable car. So, he came up with Plan B and slipped the ring on my finger when I was asleep. It was such a sweet, unexpected,imperfectly perfect proposal. And such a metaphor for life....that not everything turns out the way you plan. But the real gift lies in finding what's right when things go wrong. And what's right has been my 25 years with the most romantic, funny, generous best friend anyone could ever ask for. I have been married for 25 years and still revel in the way we got engaged. After only being together a few months, Will rented a little guesthouse in Hana (one of the last vestiges of “Old Hawaii.”) Everyone was sure he’d propose to me there. But I was so happy to have finally found my soulmate after so many years of wondering if he existed, that it didn’t matter to me that he didn’t. After Hana,we flew to S.F. for the Jewish holidays. I found out later, that Will had planned to propose to me on a cable car–something he had fantasized about since he was a child. But leave it to me, toI was too cold that night to take a cable car. So, he came up with Plan B and slipped the ring on my finger when I was asleep. It was such a sweet, unexpected,imperfectly perfect proposal. And such a metaphor for life….that not everything turns out the way you plan. But the real gift lies in finding what’s right when things go wrong. And what’s right has been my 25 years with the most romantic, funny, generous best friend anyone could ever ask for.

]]> Comment on An unromantic proposal: spectacle or sentiment? by marla wentner http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/an-unromantic-proposal-spectacle-or-sentiment/comment-page-1/#comment-7533 marla wentner Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:09:01 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19710#comment-7533 I have seen that video before and I felt so sorry for both of them. He must have been so very sure she would accept. But it took a lot of courage for her to walk off when on camera. I admire that. You also wonder if they have since worked it out, and maybe she was simply overwhelmed. I am totally with you on the whole misplaced spectacle of the moment, both for the proposal, then the engagement party, then the pre-wedding, then the wedding. All the time, heartache and money each phase costs could be put to so much better use, either for the couple or for the world. And I do feel sorry for the men involved. The pressure is so much on them, and they have nothing to say about any of it, when push comes to shove. All the decisions seem to be made by the woman (and her mother). Big business, but sad business. I have seen that video before and I felt so sorry for both of them. He must have been so very sure she would accept. But it took a lot of courage for her to walk off when on camera. I admire that. You also wonder if they have since worked it out, and maybe she was simply overwhelmed.

I am totally with you on the whole misplaced spectacle of the moment, both for the proposal, then the engagement party, then the pre-wedding, then the wedding. All the time, heartache and money each phase costs could be put to so much better use, either for the couple or for the world. And I do feel sorry for the men involved. The pressure is so much on them, and they have nothing to say about any of it, when push comes to shove. All the decisions seem to be made by the woman (and her mother). Big business, but sad business.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by Darryle Pollack http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7532 Darryle Pollack Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:47:34 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7532 You're right; and at times of sadness it's even more important to remember and seek out all the joy you possibly can. Hope you have lots of joy in your life; and thanks so much, Duchess, for commenting. You’re right; and at times of sadness it’s even more important to remember and seek out all the joy you possibly can. Hope you have lots of joy in your life; and thanks so much, Duchess, for commenting.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by Darryle Pollack http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7531 Darryle Pollack Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:46:07 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7531 Mine was a re-do; HIS was the sweetest thing ever. Haha. And we did have a loving and wonderful Valentine's day--hope you did, too. Mine was a re-do; HIS was the sweetest thing ever. Haha. And we did have a loving and wonderful Valentine’s day–hope you did, too.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by DuchessOmnium http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7530 DuchessOmnium Thu, 16 Feb 2012 05:19:39 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7530 So much sadness recently. It is good to remember there's joy too. So much sadness recently. It is good to remember there’s joy too.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by Stacy http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7529 Stacy Wed, 15 Feb 2012 07:09:45 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7529 Oh so sweet Darryle and then to see your husband V's comments and list of ten back to you was about the sweetest thing ever. It's obvious you two are in love this 2012 Valentine's Day. Oh so sweet Darryle and then to see your husband V’s comments and list of ten back to you was about the sweetest thing ever. It’s obvious you two are in love this 2012 Valentine’s Day.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by Darryle Pollack http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7528 Darryle Pollack Wed, 15 Feb 2012 06:45:51 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7528 Wendi, thank you thank you---I feel the same connection and we will definitely meet---and SOON. And maybe I will bring V, too! Thank you again for all your creativity and warmth. Wendi, thank you thank you—I feel the same connection and we will definitely meet—and SOON. And maybe I will bring V, too! Thank you again for all your creativity and warmth.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by Darryle Pollack http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7527 Darryle Pollack Wed, 15 Feb 2012 06:43:30 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7527 You might have to start your own blog---your comments are more expressive and witty than my posts. And this was the best Valentine----(topped only by the chocolate). I'm beyond touched --although truthfully, we both know you (uncharacteristically ) exaggerated a little bit---I lavish FAR more attention on the cat---and so do you! haha Thank you for such a beautiful list--with all my love. You might have to start your own blog—your comments are more expressive and witty than my posts.
And this was the best Valentine—-(topped only by the chocolate). I’m beyond touched –although truthfully, we both know you (uncharacteristically ) exaggerated a little bit—I lavish FAR more attention on the cat—and so do you! haha Thank you for such a beautiful list–with all my love.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons I Love You by Darryle Pollack http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2012/02/10-reasons-i-love-you-2/comment-page-1/#comment-7526 Darryle Pollack Wed, 15 Feb 2012 06:19:54 +0000 http://blog.darrylepollack.com/?p=19898#comment-7526 Haha; you'll have to get on line behind a few of my friends. Happy Valentine's Day, Denise! Haha; you’ll have to get on line behind a few of my friends. Happy Valentine’s Day, Denise!

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