(NOTE: After you read this post, a comment would be the best gift –for a wonderful cause. Please see below.)
We’re standing in the parking lot where Daniel is about to board the bus that will take him to sleep-away camp for the first time, for a month. I had urged him to have this experience; but now that the moment is here, I’m struggling not to cry.
My 10-year old son pats me gently on the back as he hugs me goodbye.
Then he stands back to look in my eyes, and says seriously, “Don’t worry, Mommy, I’ll be fine. I can take care of myself.”
By age 6 his life experience included divorce, my remarriage, and a move 500 miles away from his dad and the home where he’d lived his whole life. The day after his 7th birthday party, I found out I had cancer.
I never signed up for this….not for me, surely not for my two kids.
I wanted their lives to be perfection; and painless. Before cancer, I already hovered close to helicopter parent status, maybe to compensate for the loss of my own mom to cancer at 41. Now I was certain my kids would grow up without me; not an unreasonable presumption with a stage III diagnosis and a poor prognosis.
So I was in agony; not from cancer but from an aching heart. For a mom, no pain of your own hurts with the intensity of the pain (or even imagined pain) suffered by your children.
Daniel, the younger of my two kids, was my prince, my baby. All I wanted was to give him safety and security and sweetness. But I was helpless to protect him; even worse, I had been the cause of his exposure to life’s cruelty and uncertainty —both inadvertently and intentionally.
He didn’t complain about all these challenges; but he noticed.
One night as I tucked him into bed, he ticked off his list. “I’m the only kid whose mom has cancer and wears a wig. No one else lives in a different city from their dad. Why isn’t life fair?”
“First world problems,” you can’t say flippantly to an 8 year old. Plus I wasn’t feeling flippant. The truth was, I was asking those same questions myself.
Slowly and surely, life settled into a new normal. Howard, my ex-husband, came to visit frequently and maintained a close relationship with our kids and with me. My hair grew back and Daniel grew up into a normal, happy, well-adjusted kid who loved normal things like football and fart jokes.
Yet those early years left their mark. Ironically, in a good way.
Daniel was the life of every party; but he was also mature, caring, gentle, instinctively the peacemaker in every group. He appreciated the simple precious gift of having parents; even one who lived far away.
No longer did he mention that life wasn’t fair; he knew he was blessed, and very lucky. And he had an extraordinary sense of perspective and compassion for those who weren’t.
I gained perspective, too. I saw that living through challenges didn’t devastate him; instead, it was the opposite. It developed his adaptability and his character; deepening qualities that were already so much part of him —sensitivity , kindness, thoughtfulness, generosity of spirit – all qualities he could and would call on when he had to face challenges in the future.
After college graduation, he planned to work while studying for the LSAT (Law School Admissions Test). He relocated to Los Angeles to be near his dad, who had been diagnosed with myelodysplastic syndrome (MDS )which he developed, like Robin Roberts, from having chemo treatment for cancer.
Soon after Daniel arrived, Howard’s condition worsened. Because their dad lived alone, and our daughter lived too far to help on a daily basis, Daniel became his dad’s main caregiver.
He didn’t sign up for this; but he took it on.
Anyone who’s been a caregiver knows that this taxes the patience and emotions of people with far more life experience than a 23- year -old fresh out of college. Instead of the carefree LA life Daniel imagined, his was consumed with long hours in doctors’ offices, monitoring medications, hiring caregivers, mediating between family and friends, being his dad’s emotional and physical support; even sleeping overnight in a chair by his dad’s hospital bed while studying for the LSAT exam. Most difficult was witnessing the daily deterioration of the dynamic person he had depended on.
As I always do, I ached for his pain. But I knew he would emerge even stronger than he was.
And he did. Honestly I don’t know how Daniel managed; but he handled it all with wisdom, kindness and grace.
24 was the year Daniel embarked on his career path, and started law school.
24 was his first year of life without a father.
Though some define his age range as emerging adulthood, 24 was the year Daniel cemented his evolution from boy to man.
Being able to see that, simply to be here to see Daniel and his sister Alli grow up, is my life’s most profound and precious gift. And they both have given me an equally precious gift, the truth that Daniel knew when he was just 10: “Don’t worry, Mommy, I’ll be fine. I can take care of myself.”
In honor of all those children who aren’t as lucky as Daniel, this post is inspired by Shot@Life, an initiative of the United Nations Foundation which helps get vaccines to kids as a cost-effective way to save lives in the world’s hardest to reach places.
A child dies every 20 seconds from a vaccine-preventable disease. We can help change this reality. During Shot@Life’s Blogust, 31 bloggers, one each day in August, are writing about moments that matter. For every comment on this post and the 30 other posts, Walgreens will donate a vaccine (up to 50,000 vaccines).
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Sylvia @ 40PlusStyle says
Wonderful article. As so often you made me cry again. Good luck with this initiative!
Mary Ann says
Perfection and safety are will o’ the wisps. They aren’t real, and pursuing them leads you into a swamp. Making your children partners in life, to the extent of their ability, builds your relationship with them, and their skills and character– just as your story tells. And I applaud your children, and you. What a tough series of events.
Delores Van Horn says
Your story brought tears to my eyes. What an emotional roller coaster you and your children faced and yet you all came out at the finish line with a great outlook on life and what it holds. Great tribute to you and your family.
Frank says
Such a touching story and wonderful young man! Thank you for sharing this and for working with Walgreens and Shot@Life to give all children the chance to be wonderful!
Bridget says
Heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time. We love that our kids are resilient but hate the moments when that resiliency is revealed to us. Thanks for supporting Shot@Life!
Patricia La Brie says
Very touching! Thanks for lending a post!
Veramur says
Thank you so much for sharing these reflections.
Morra says
Daniel is your prince and he will always be your baby! I loved hearing the evolution of your relationship!
Tyler says
Thanks for sharing!
Connie says
Thank you for sharing such a wonderful story of hope and love.
lisa benton says
Great story about a great kid!
Joanna Shin says
Please continue to spread your kind words. Good luck with this initiative!
Monica T. says
Great post! Thanks for sharing…
maria says
thank you for sharing
MC says
Such a beautiful post on how life’s hardships can shape you into something great! Thank you for sharing!
Karen says
I can relate to Daniel I lost both my parents before I was 20. It did make me a strong person. All the best to Daniel.
Celia says
Thanks for sharing, and to Walgreens for donating!
Sharon Couto says
Beautiful post… made me cry and smile. Your love of your son and the love he has in turn given to his family the universe is life’s true gift. Thank you for sharing Daniel with us and thank you for your great support of Shot@Life…
Lyssa says
Thank you for the beautiful cry this morning. I hope my guy becomes just as remarkable as Daniel!
Francis says
Very touching. Thanks for sharing.
Sara says
Thanks for the post! I really enjoyed reading it!
Pam Petty says
Thank you for sharing. You’ve demonstrated that there is life after pain.
C R says
Thank you for participating in a Shot@Life and, through my commenting, allowing me to make small difference with you.
Melissa says
I found your blog through the shot@life website and am happy to help children get vaccines.
Michele says
So happy to hear you’ve survived to see your children grow into young adults. Your story about Daniel was written beautifully. I know he’ll treasure the wonderful times he spent with his father. Children are wiser than we give them credit for sometimes – “I can take care of myself” is that potent reminder that children do grow up. You’ve done a wonderful job! …and now think of all those who will be helped as 1 comment = 1 shot at life.
pingram says
Well said it was a great read.
pingram says
I guess there is no expiry date on being a parent.
pingram says
This vaccine thing is a great idea.
pingram says
Hope you get lots of comments and therefore lots of vaccines.
pingram says
I bet you worry about him for the next 24 years as well.
Jessica says
I love that you are supporting shot @ life
Suebob says
This is a beautiful tribute, both to your son and to his parents.
Elizabeth Griesser says
We all share the story. Thank you.
Diane Glasgow says
Very inspiring!
Tfs! Warmly, Diane in TN
Jeannette says
Such a beautiful post… And your son is a beautiful human being. Xoxo
Melissa says
Beautiful
Carol says
I loved this post Darryle. So touching and full of warmth. Best to you, Daniel and Ali
Lynn J says
What a touching, inspiring story about the power of love, courage and hope. Thank you for sharing your story and for helping kids. You have given so much to others sharing by your story. God bless you and your children <3
Maria says
My husband’s cancer diagnosis and treatment last year devastated our family and especially our daughter. Now I see that it had made her stronger. Thanks for showing that this is something that might last.
Maria
S says
Wow! This is my first time here, and I must say that your son sounds like a terrific, well-adjusted, smart, caring man.
Ruth says
Heatwarming to see how our sons emerge no matter how heart wrenching their paths. Took my breath away Darrylee.
Em says
Thank you for sharing your inspiring and moving story with us! I am deeply moved by your son’s courage and will power. Good luck to him in law school! That is fantastic! Thanks also to Walgreens and shot@life for making this comment count! 🙂
Emily says
I’m crying good tears at this post…I have 3 boys and my youngest, only 9, is now being treated for a rare form of pediatric cancer. He has always been the sweetest, most laid-back kid and I constantly worry about how this challenge will affect his personality moving forward…will he continue to be the easy-going guy, or will he become anxious and fearful and angry, because he’s had to deal with such an unfair and difficult circumstance so early in his life? Your post has given me reassurance that he will emerge from this challenge as a stronger person, as well as even more empathetic and sweet than before. Thank you!!
Julie Simon says
Your description of Daniel so reminds me of my Jillian.
“Daniel was the life of every party; but he was also mature, caring, gentle, instinctively the peacemaker in every group. He appreciated the simple precious gift of having parents; even one who lived far away.
No longer did he mention that life wasn’t fair; he knew he was blessed, and very lucky. And he had an extraordinary sense of perspective and compassion for those who weren’t.”
Her life challenge has been her adoption, which she deals with with magnificent poetry and expression.
Jeff says
Beautiful post. I can only imagine how much his help meant to his dad, but I can certainly appreciate how proud you are of your son. 🙂
V says
D/
I have been witness to the depth of character within Daniel and Alli, and how circumstances have strengthened it, for over twenty years. Its been a privilege to see the centeredness that the bond you have forged with your children has given all three of you. It has helped me immensely in my own growth and evolution.
Love always,
V/
Denisse says
Beautiful. Life’s challenges can be difficult but they shape us and make us better persons.
Shannon Des Roches Rosa says
“No longer did he mention that life wasn’t fair; he knew he was blessed, and very lucky. And he had an extraordinary sense of perspective and compassion for those who weren’t.”
This is all I could ever wish for our children, I just wish you & your Daniel didn’t have to go through so much. Thank you for sharing your story for this so-important cause.
Marilyn says
Thanks, Darryle – that was a wonderful story and Daniel truly sounds like a warm, caring human being.
Julie Marsh says
What an amazing son you have. Thank you for sharing a peek into his life and his character. So glad you’re part of Shot@Life!
Hal Ballard says
Thanks for sharing, Darryle. I have 2 sons who lost their mother to an aneurism. While her death was sudden and unexpected, the strength they derived to see them through this was developed by her. THey are fine young men with families of their own now and my grandchildren provide me with treasures to keep in my heart forever.
Nili Majumder says
Great inspiring blog of mother and her child. This blogust is great learning. Wishing Daniel’s bright & successful life ahead.
Kelley Hicken says
Chills. This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing. And thank you for participating in the vaccination program.
Christine Vara says
Daniel sounds like quite a remarkable young man. I wholeheartedly agree that it’s hard for parents to watch their children live through such challenges (and it sure seems like you and your family have had more than your fair share), but you are also wise in recognizing that these challenges are exactly what make them such kind, thoughtful and generous souls. Thank you for this beautiful reminder of the good fortunes we have and for your help in preventing dangerous and deadly diseases through your participation with the Shot@Life campaign.
Lois Alter Mark says
Darryle, I’m not surprised you have such a wonderful son — he has an amazing mother to learn from. This was such a beautiful story and made me cry. What could be better than knowing your child truly has the resources to take care of himself? Thanks for sharing this and doubling the good by sharing it for Shot@Life. xoxo
Lucrecer says
Beautiful post.
Akemi Bourgeois says
Just beautiful, Darryle. I just added a few tears to my morning coffee. There is one big thing my kids are growing up without that plagues me thoughts each day. Although my children are blissfully unaware of what they are missing, I worry how this will play into their futures, but reading this cements what I already knew, that kids can get past what we perceive are hardships and still blossom into wonderful young adults.
Nili Majumder says
Thanks for sharing Great inspiring blog of mother and her child.
This blogust is great learning.
Wishing Daniel’s bright & successful life ahead.
Linda K. says
You are still the beautiful person I remember from many years ago with a beautiful family as well. I am inspired by your writings!
Sherri says
Oh, Darryl…what an amazing human being you have raised. It doesn’t surprise me one bit.
Dorit Reiss says
I can’t say how touched I am. What an amazing young man Daniel is. I hope he continues to do well and wish him success in law school.
Emily White says
Thanks for sharing your story with the rest of us, and thank you for supporting Shot@Life!
RonnieBMWK says
Daniel sounds like a very special person…you are blessed to have him as a son! Thanks for sharing your story.
Kim says
An inspiring reminder of where to focus….
Tamara says
Touching post, thank you!
C says
Great post for a great cause!
Tracy Turner-Bumberry says
The resilience of children is amazing
Kathryn Bourgeois says
Really inspiring and a reminder how to both let go…and hold on to what’s important.
Thanks for sharing your story and supporting Shot@Life!
TJ says
Thank you for your post, it puts life in perspective. You have a wonderful son and a wonderful family! All the best!
Edith Onines says
May God give us the srength we need to face our trials.
Kaelyn says
I am so touched by this initiative. I am so excited to be a part of something like this. Thank you for writing and sharing this opportunity.
Sharon Greene says
Thank you for sharing your story. Like you, I was divorced early in my kids’ life and had cancer when they were 10 and 11. I am glad your sons turned out so well. I still worry about how these experiences will ultimately affect my children who are now 12 and 13.
epage1 says
All of our children are lucky to have been born in a country that allows vaccines. Thank u for writing about this issue.
traceyclark says
Deeply touched by your post and your son. Thank you for sharing.
Vivi says
Thanks for sharing your story.
Seana says
A very moving post about a terrific young man.
Jean B. says
Thanks for this beautiful post, Darryle. I’m happy to do my very small part to bring vaccines to kids by writing this comment.
Emily says
Thank you for the wonderful story!
Aaron Rosenthal says
Great post, Aunt D!
Scala says
Thank you for sharing, your son has a unique perspective and those experiences have influenced his life and will continue to do so.
Judy Brooks says
I consider myself one of the lucky ones to have been able to know Daniel and his equally wonderful sister, Alli, since day one of their lives. They have emerged from all their challenges as kind, considerate, intelligent, accomplished adults. They are, in fact, the children we all fantasize about when we decide to become parents.
Good work, Darryle, Howard and V.
Madgew says
So glad you are healthy and that your son and daughter knew they were loved by their dad and now can see through all the memories what their devotion meant to him.
Chloe Jeffreys says
Hardship and suffering does grow us, but nobody wants those things for their children. Despite knowing for myself that some of my most important gains as a human being came from strife, I sought with all of my strength to shield my children from it.
Watching that evolution from child to grown-up is hard. I’d rather have the pain myself than watch my children have any. My children’s pain hurts doubly hard, and there isn’t a danged thing I can do about it.
Beautiful post, Darryle.
Thank you for your contribution to such a worthy campaign.
gail reiss says
Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing your story, Darryle. I think I’m hearing Kelly Clarkson’s song, “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger” playing in the background.
Rick Smallman says
Fantastic
Lynn says
Oh Darryle, what a beautiful post. Daniel is the good and strong human being you nourished, and how he lived through and handled the hardships are the result of your love.
Amy says
I hope my sons will handle life with the grace that yours has. What a touching story.
Wally Coe says
He will be fine. I still remember my parents sending me off to camp for 10 days 60 yrs ago – age 7. They were scared. I was scared. It was one the best best things of my childhood.
Josette says
I loved reading this story about your son Daniel. It brought back memories of helping to care for my own father through his cancer when I was 13, and also illustrates the kind of man I hope my 2yo son grows to be. Thanks for sharing, and thanks for participating in Shot@Life!
PK Fields says
Darryle,
You have truly raised some remarkable children through your own challenges. Daniel obviously learned a lot from you, his caring for Howard and taking on the responsibility of being his caregiver.
You should be so incredibly proud…..I am for you and your children.
You are certainly blessed my friend.
Congrats on participating in Shot@Life! YAY #Walgreens.
Darryle Pollack says
A wonderful perspective on life appreciating the blessings we have. Thanks so much for sharing.
ccylevin says
Thank you for sharing!
Don Wilkerson says
Moving story. Your family has not been spared from life’s problems. The way you all have coped with them is impressive. Good luck to Daniel in his law career and to all of you.
Rick and family in California says
Thank you for sharing these deeply moving feeling and events involving your son. We are so sorry about all of the loss and pain you and your son have experienced, even though it has helped to make you the beautiful people that you are. My wife and I are both attorneys and we would be glad to be a resource for Daniel if he has questions during law school. Hopefully you will be able to see our email and let us know if he is interested. Either way, we wish you, Daniel and the rest of your family all the best.
Richard Citron says
That Daniel and Alli were remarkable kids who have become remarkable young adults is no surprise to me … but you knew that would happen early on. Or at least you thought you did. Perhaps you worried that you might be wrong. … that maybe love could have clouded your judgment. That wasn’t only parental angst. You’ve seen it happen within other parents. But you weren’t wrong. You were right. You’re blessed with two extraordinary kids that continue to amaze, delight and warm your heart. What can be better than that? Now you can exhale … at least a little. I know the feeling.
Ayşe Gökçek says
This is a beautiful campaign and happy to be able to help with only a comment:)
Susan says
So impressed by Daniel and by your efforts to give vaccinations!
Ava says
Darryle, what you describe is both a mothers nightmare and dream — the nightmare of exposing your young child to the pain of loss and helpless followed by the miracle of his recovery and growth into a young man stronger, competent and caring because of the harsh experiences. Pain is not the best path to goodness, but it is comforting at least that when it must happen it can bring on some good and give others the gift of learning from that pain. Which is what you have done in your blogs time and again. Stay healthy, happy and kind.
Julia says
He sounds like an amazing young man.
Melissa T. Shultz says
Beautiful piece, beautiful boy, beautiful campaign.
stacey ashlund says
Thank you for your bravery & honesty – you’ve passed it on to your incredible son! Hope for fun & smooth sailing for him for a change – he deserves it! You’re a great mom – so wonderful you beat the odds! Thanks for supporting Shot@Life!
Bobbiejo says
I am so glad that Daniel did not let the hardships make him bitter but has instead blossomed into such a dedicated and caring young man. Life has become more precious to me as well due to going through times when I thought I might lose my own life due to health problems. By some miracles, I am still alive (thanks in part to a six organ transplant), and I hope that I can have the same response as Daniel to my challenges. Thank you for sharing the encouraging past and present of your son.
Lorette Lavine says
Life and challenges…we all have them. It is what we do with them that counts. Thank you for sharing Darryle.
Paul says
Beautiful post. Dan is THE man.
Carla says
Wonderful post. Daniel was always a sweet and caring boy and he’s grown into a wonderful young man.
etai says
I wish you and your family all the happiness in the world
Andrea says
Thank you for sharing Darryle, beautiful.
Rachel S says
Thinking of you all. Wonderful post. You’ve done well with raising him.
Melissa says
You have raised an independent young man.
Ann says
wow! what a wonderful son!
May God Bless you both.
marla says
A truly lovely post, Darryle. You have a wonderful son who will guide his own life with great grace and wisdom, all shaped by the experiences he has had. Keep us all informed as to his progress.
And good luck in Los Angeles and with your new business endeavor.
Ellen says
Gorgeous piece, Darryle. The shot of Daniel sleeping is priceless!
Edith says
Beautifully written. A compassionate young man and a strong mother who guided him through difficult
times. I wish you all good things in the future.
Gloria Vermie says
Your son is a joy– here’s to all the mothers who loved, parented and raised strong, dynamic, loving sons. Thank you for sharing
Gemma Jeva says
All the best for you and your family!
Darryle Pollack says
It’s what we do with them that counts. Wise Words. Thanks so much, Lorette. So glad we got to meet.
Darryle Pollack says
haha. love it.
Darryle Pollack says
thank u; I think “grown” is the operative word. Feeding him all those years was no small task. haha
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks so much for your good wishes, and comment, too.
Darryle Pollack says
Marla, thanks so much for such a thoughtful comment, as always. I will definitely keep you posted and I promise I won’t stop blogging!
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you! Just wait: taking pictures of sleeping children is impossible to resist. I have about a thousand more.
Rebecca says
This is such a heartbreaking yet heartwarming story. Your son has grown to be such a strong, caring, and independent individual. You are truly blessed!
Connie says
Wonderful! Very touching, thank you.
Colleen says
Your son has such an amazing character. I love that you notice and appreciate it. Thank you for the lovely story, and for taking part in Shot@Life!
Deborah says
As always beautifully told Darryle and it’s so important that Daniel’s story is doing something to help less fortunate children.
Emily says
Beautiful post.
Cheryl says
Wonderful writing. Those that experience more when they r young seem better equipped to grab on and live life better than those safe cocooned children. But choice design devine intervention, both your children are survivors and caring adults. Kudoos to you all. Prayers & blessings will follow ball three of you & angels arewwatching.
jessica Bern says
You are an incredible writer and Daniel is so lucky to have you as a mom. I cannot wait to meet him.
TRo says
This post brought me to tears! Thank you for sharing something so personal and you have been blessed with an amazing son. You write so well! I could see your life through your words.
Jay says
A wonderful read. All the best to you, Daniel and the rest of your family. Reading this made me appreciate the love, courage and support of my parents, and can only hope I can do the same for my kids.
Caryn/The Mid Life Guru says
A wonderful story of facing life’s challenges head on without excuses, coming out a stronger and more compassionate individual. You and Daniel are amazing.
Jane Gassner says
What Jessica said! Xxoo
Jillian says
Beautifully written, brutally honest, and heart warming as always. I was driving up north today for a wedding and you popped into my head–I remembered when you had cancer and how we thought we were going to lose you. I am so grateful that you are well. Ali and Daniel have surely been through a lot, but I think you can rest assured that they can take care of themselves. They are both wise beyond their years, and count their blessings. It’s hard to believe that Daniel is so young! Like me and my sister, they are incredibly lucky to have such an amazing mom…cheers to you!
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you. Here’s to all parents–the hardest and best job in the world.
Darryle Pollack says
His character has always stood out; thank you for seeing it and for commenting.
Darryle Pollack says
I always wanted to keep my chlldren safe and cocooned and did my best to do that despite everything. I never would have chosen these experiences for them, but I think they are well equipped for the challenges that everyone faces. I think we all need to be survivors in some sense. Thanks so much for your good wishes.
Darryle Pollack says
I’m the lucky one; and I can’t wait till you meet him, too. Thanks and love and hugs. xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
It always feels worthwhile to write something that helps someone else appreciate what they have. Thank you for letting me know; and all the best to you and your kids.
Darryle Pollack says
Heartbreaking yet heartwarming, I love that description. thank you; and yes, I am truly blessed.
Darryle Pollack says
Shot@Live is such a wonderful cause; I’m honored to be able to help in any way. xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
Thank YOU for your words; and for participating in Shot@Life.
Darryle Pollack says
There’s nothing harder for parents; and I hope this makes it easier for parents to see the rewards that can result from challenges. And also to remember how fortunate we all are. Thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you! xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
Totally agree; at this point in life, there’s nothing better than seeing your children become independent caring adults. Thank YOU for tripling the good by sharing. xxoo
Darryle Pollack says
How sweet! I’m very touched; and so glad you got in touch. Thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
How wonderful to hear from you, Akemi. I so relate to what you say; I agonized over so many things I thought my kids were missing and wish at the time I had the understanding you already have, that your children will blossom into wonderful people. How can they not with you as their mom? xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
Your story sounds so similar! My heart goes out to you and of course I know exactly how you must be worried. I hope this gives you some comfort thinking ahead. I also think your children ultimately will take pride in your survival from cancer, as mine do now. All my best to you and your children.
Darryle Pollack says
I consider US the lucky ones to have had you in our lives all these years. Your support and caring and being there was a huge part of how all of us managed to get through the experience of cancer. I could never express how deeply grateful I am for all the comfort and love you provided all of us. xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
Perfect; I thought of using that song for the title. xxoo
Darryle Pollack says
Exactly right; it was a nightmare that turned into a dream better than I could have hoped. And I do hope others can learn how good can come from something bad. Thanks so much, Ava.
ASHISH SHRIVASTAVA says
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youth with parenting sensitivity,care,generosity ,inner divine feeling.Usual social life constraints may
affect way of life of both youth&parenting.Health consciousness is vital life awakening process for both
youth&parenting .Healthy negotiations&attention are resolution of negative social impact in between parenting&youth.Parenting sympathy with youth can lead goodness in future biological/married life
of youth.
Jennifer Burden @WorldMomsBlog says
Here’s to unlocking one more vaccines for the children who need it most!
Jen 🙂
Cheryl Berger says
I can’t resist commenting for a good cause! You put in words so eloquently what all parents wish, feel and hope for their children. Our family’s motto is that difficult things in life make you stronger, and it proves true time and time again. You have a right to be very proud of both your kids, (and yourself, too). They did not get to be mensches without wonderful role models and guidance.
Chaz Walter says
Cool!
Anu Ghatak says
brought tears to my eyes…thank you for dedicating this one to unlocking a vaccine for a child who needs one
Audrey - Mom Generations says
Beautiful, beautiful post!!!
Darryle Pollack says
A six-organ transplant! You have already responded amazingly to life’s challenges; what a survivor you are! Thank you for sharing your story, and commenting.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you! Proud to be part of Blogust with you!
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks so much for the sweet words, Sherri; and for your support. xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
I am VERY blessed; thank you!
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you for YOUR words! Very much appreciated.
Jamie Inman says
Poignant and profound. Thanks for writing your story!
Darryle Pollack says
So glad this touched your heart; thanks so much for your good wishes for Daniel’s continuing success.
Darryle Pollack says
I went to camp every summer for 8 weeks starting at 8; one of the best parts of my childhood,too.
Mo at Mocadeaux says
Thanks for sharing this story. Dan sounds like an incredible guy who knows the true meaning of caring. I’m thrilled to be able to contribute to shot@life’s campaign to bring vaccines to those in need.
Myra Goodman says
Darryle, you have set a great example of putting your family first and the healing power of love. Daniel is one of my favorite young men. You’ve been such a great mom, and I am so grateful that you are here to be my friend and kvell over your wonderful son!
Susan says
Your son sounds amazing, what a wonderful soul he has! You must be so proud of him.
Sue says
Thanks for sharing the wonderful blog about your amazing 24 year old son! Loved reading it and knowing that you are helping so many children receive a much needed vaccine through Shot @ LIfe!
Jen V says
beautiful post Darryle!
MelV says
Thank you for sharing!
Sandy Manheimer says
Your many thoughtful and giving activities inspire me to be more ambitious (in a selfless way) and generous–like you!
Tanis Miller says
This was wonderful. Dan is the man alright. Thanks for sharing!
Darryle Pollack says
Our challenges were tough on us; but so much less than what many children and parents face daily; such enormous challenges. Making them your partners is a great way to put it; thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you. We’re just examples of what parents and children face every day; managing to survive much much worse challenges. I feel incredibly blessed and lucky.
Christine Somers says
Thank you for sharing your son’s story…he is inspirational.
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks so much!
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you for commenting!
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks so much, appreciate it.
Darryle Pollack says
He’s the amazing one, always has been. Thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
So appreciate your support of Shot@Life.
Darryle Pollack says
So nice to hear from you, Cheryl and thanks so much for such sweet words. Hope all is well with you and your family.
Darryle Pollack says
Very proud to be associated with Shot@Life; it’s a wonderful cause. Thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
Jamie, thanks so much for commenting. Miss you! Hope you’ll come down south sometime; and hope all is well .
Darryle Pollack says
I’m thrilled to contribute too; it’s a really meaningful campaign. Thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
You know how grateful I am to be given extra years of life; and also very grateful to have you in it! xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks so much, Jean, for this and always supporting me. xxxoo
Darryle Pollack says
And you’re doing a stellar job of raising your girls. much love. xxoo
Darryle Pollack says
And I’m so glad that you’re participating in Shot@Life. Thank you!
BecSta says
Your story brought tears to my eyes. I can’t imagine going through all your son has, but it is truly inspiring to hear how he has grown from these situations. Thank you for sharing.
Erin says
Daniel sounds like an incredible (and incredibly strong) person, and I’m so sorry for the loss of his dad. Thanks for sharing this story.
Jamie says
Beautiful post, thank you for sharing!
Gemma Jeva says
Thanks for sharing your emotions!
~j. says
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for being involved with Shot@Life.
Joanne says
Lovely article…thanks for sharing!
Lynda @MommyPowers says
Thanks for sharing your story! Every child matters!
Deb Rox says
Wow, this post. An amazing story of stepping up. What a fantastic person he is, and your love and pride beams through.
carol says
Great story, told well, thanks for helping to save lives.
Wendy says
I had tears as I read your beautiful post. Thank you
Dolly Navina Lakra says
Lovely !
Nicole Melancon says
Thank you so much for writing this post and supporting Shot@Life! I’ve volunteered on the campaign since the beginning and believe so passionately in the cause.
Adrian says
What an amazing kid! I have a 24 year old also, but I can’t imagine him going through the kinds of experiences your son has. I’m glad that it turned him good rather than turned him fearful and insecure as it easily could have. That is proof of the resiliancy of the human spirit.
Andrea says
You have a beautiful family. Thank you for sharing.
Steph says
Great post. Thanks for supporting Shot@Life
Rachel says
Your son s a very courageous and wonderful young man. Thank you fir sharing this emotional heart-tugging and beautiful piece.
Netta Conerly says
Alternately heartwarming and heart wrenching story. Best of Luck to your son on his career choice. Thanks for your article for Shot@Life.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank YOU for your commitment to Shot@Life.
Darryle Pollack says
The human spirit is amazing and amazingly resilient, as you say. I wouldn’t wish anything negative for your son of course, and I didn’t for mine, either. It is gratifying to see adversity turned into courage and character. thanks so much.
Darryle Pollack says
I’m very blessed; thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
Many thanks.
Darryle Pollack says
I hoped by sharing it would give hope to others with their own challenges. thank you.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you so much! I know Daniel has all the tools he needs to succeed at what he chooses to do.
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks, Edith for your good wishes. It’s hard to guide our children sometimes when we still need guidance ourselves.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you for supporting Shot@Life.
Darryle Pollack says
Thanks, Jane. xxo
Barbara says
Wonderful post, wonderful cause. Bless you all!
Al Denelsbeck says
This is what ‘strength’ really means – he’ll go far.
Thanks for supporting Shot@Life!
Ellen S. says
Beautiful post, Daryl. And your kids are beautiful too. You never do know what life will bring you, eh? But I know that this could help save a life—so feeling good about that! xo
sean ishum says
powerful story. you have an amazing son
Migdalia - @MsLatina says
Your son is an inspiration. May he continue to excel in all that he does. Thank you Darryle for sharing him and this post with us.
Darryle Pollack says
Thank you for reaching out; how incredibly thoughtful of you! Sincere appreciation and gratitude for that and for participating in Shot@Life.
Darryle Pollack says
Sylvia, so great to hear from you and thanks for your sweet comment. Shot@Life is a wonderful initiative and I’m honored to be part of it. Best to you.
GR says
Thanks for posting!
Alina says
Here’s to the vaccines!
zalora says
I wouldn’t wish anything negative for your son of course, and I didn’t for mine, either. It is gratifying to see adversity turned into courage and character. thanks so much.
Erik paul says
beautiful
Darryle Pollack says
thanks so much!