Though it’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind, I think this is V’s least favorite thing about me: not only being indecisive, but also revisiting decisions I already supposedly made. ( Somehow this isn’t a problem when it comes to making decisions for everyone else–that’s easy.)
And now my indecisiveness can extend into cyberspace: Facebook, Twitter, blogs, email–when and where and why and how to comment and connect—can all be completely confounding and confusing.
Even my own blog can be confusing.
I started out with one decision: to blog every day. Since I revised that decision, it’s a constant series of new decisions– subject matter, quality vs. quantity, how long, how often, how personal.
After a year and a half, my blog looks like one of my mosaics— with pieces of all sizes and colors and shapes—which is fine. Until I skip a few days like I just did. People wonder where I’ve been. …and then I wonder, who am I blogging for—me or you?
I can’t decide.
Whoever you are doing your blog for, we are the winners. Everyday, once and a while, whatever, I know I appreciate it. It is your decision to do at your own pace.
I think it is a HUGE compliment that people question,” Where is Darryle hiding?” We love your writing and look forward to every column!
I don’t really question where you’ve been. I know that you are enjoying some time away from the constant screen of light. That I get, for sure. I miss your blogs when you stop for a couple of days, because you are an extremely good writer, and your blog is colorful and always worth reading.
As far as who you are blogging for — you or us — that’s a good question. But as long as it is enjoyable to you, it doesn’t really matter. If it’s not enjoyable then you shouldn’t do it. It’s pretty black/white decision at that point.
But the most important question is this, “should we be concerned about building an ark?”
I’ll go with the ark—and also your feedback–I really appreciate such thoughtful sweet responses to my whining! Seriously. Thank you!
Fairly sure this won’t be the last time I whine about this subject—but will try confining myself to an audience of one—V.
LOL.
Gladn your back but I
I THOUGHT YOU HAD GONE ADVENTURING. JUST GLAD YOU ARE OKAY AND BACK. FOR WHOM THE BLOG TOLLS, THEY TOLL FOR THEE AND ME AND ALL THE OTHERS MEs.
Darryle,
I think you’re blogging for an audience, not yourself. There’s a blogging guru I follow (who is also a spiritual guru of sorts: Slade Roberson), and his advice is to choose one day a week for your blog. People become attuned to expecting it on that day. He feels once a week is ideal. I do like the idea of making it habitual for the reader, something they can rely upon. The haphazardness of “sometimes it appears and sometimes it doesn’t” isn’t effective, I don’t think.
Just my two cents!
Best, Jody
As a constant blog reader, but very rarely a commenter, I would offer the opinion that a blogger writes for the audience and their feedback. If those weren’t the desired targets, then you’d simply keep a journal.
As a blog reader, I expect any blogger to write when they either feel the urge, or when they schedule themselves to, depending on their own personal direction. The frequency is entirely up to the writer, and I, as the reader, am simply appreciative of the shared interesting and well-written posts, whenever they appear. So whenever you want to write, I’ll be reading!
Truly grateful for the feedback from each of you–Michele thank you for commenting in addition to reading this time.
There are as many opinions on blogging as there are about anything else. I think ultimately we all figure it out for ourselves, as I’ve been doing. For me blogging is a constantly changing and evolving process–like life itself.
As Jody suggests, for the sake of people reading, sometimes I wish I could be structured enough to blog on a certain day, a certain topic, or follow a particular blogging guru–the truth is, that’s not me. And the nature of my blog reflects this–it looks like my art—or my desk.
I guess this means I’m blogging not only for you–but for me, too.