Comments on: Why me? http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/ confessions of a cluttered mind Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:58:40 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Darryle http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Darryle Tue, 16 Dec 2008 09:16:23 +0000 http://darrylepollack.com/?p=40#comment-67 I agree there are no answers for any of these things that don't make sense. But sometimes what can help is what your mom and mother-in-law are instinctively doing---and what I'm learning that blogging is all about---sharing our stories in good times and bad. Thank you so much for sharing yours here. I agree there are no answers for any of these things that don’t make sense. But sometimes what can help is what your mom and mother-in-law are instinctively doing—and what I’m learning that blogging is all about—sharing our stories in good times and bad. Thank you so much for sharing yours here.

]]> By: Rock and Roll Mama http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-68 Rock and Roll Mama Tue, 16 Dec 2008 07:16:16 +0000 http://darrylepollack.com/?p=40#comment-68 I haven't been a cancer patient, but I've asked this question of other things for certain- when I was pregnant and lost my first baby, I asked "Why me? Why her?" when, of course, there are just no satisfactory answers. I'm watching my mom and MIL battle cancers right now- one breast, one ovarian. My MIL is a 15 year breast canver survivor, and now has Stage 3 ovarian cancer. They both have very good prognoses, but it is tempting sometimes to wonder "Why them?" or even, "Why now? Why both diagnosed within 2 weeks of each other?" Sometimes it's hard to know how to keep up, how to best help them both. But then other times, I see them talking and supporting each other, and I suspect that although I may not know the plan, or even like it if I did, there is one, somewhere. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I haven’t been a cancer patient, but I’ve asked this question of other things for certain- when I was pregnant and lost my first baby, I asked “Why me? Why her?” when, of course, there are just no satisfactory answers.

I’m watching my mom and MIL battle cancers right now- one breast, one ovarian. My MIL is a 15 year breast canver survivor, and now has Stage 3 ovarian cancer. They both have very good prognoses, but it is tempting sometimes to wonder “Why them?” or even, “Why now? Why both diagnosed within 2 weeks of each other?” Sometimes it’s hard to know how to keep up, how to best help them both. But then other times, I see them talking and supporting each other, and I suspect that although I may not know the plan, or even like it if I did, there is one, somewhere. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

]]> By: Darryle http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-69 Darryle Tue, 16 Dec 2008 04:22:47 +0000 http://darrylepollack.com/?p=40#comment-69 I think I could sit down and talk for hours with you--and the first commenter---or anyone else about this subject. Completely fascinates me how we all deal with these crises in our lives. Plus of course, the aftermath. We humans are such complex creatures. I never get tired of this stuff even though I haven't written much about it here....yet. I think I could sit down and talk for hours with you–and the first commenter—or anyone else about this subject. Completely fascinates me how we all deal with these crises in our lives. Plus of course, the aftermath. We humans are such complex creatures. I never get tired of this stuff even though I haven’t written much about it here….yet.

]]> By: ByJane http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-70 ByJane Tue, 16 Dec 2008 00:14:22 +0000 http://darrylepollack.com/?p=40#comment-70 I never really got into the Why Me after the aneurysm. Of course, the whole story is that I knew it was going to happen (hmmm, think I should tell that story?). I never thought I was going to die, either, which kinda amazed my doctor. I do have other not-so-Kosher feelings--like waiting for the other shoe to drop and another aneurysm to pop. And I feel sheepish about having had such a Serious Illness, almost like I didn't deserve something so important (hmmmm, think I should follow that line of thinking?). I never really got into the Why Me after the aneurysm. Of course, the whole story is that I knew it was going to happen (hmmm, think I should tell that story?). I never thought I was going to die, either, which kinda amazed my doctor. I do have other not-so-Kosher feelings–like waiting for the other shoe to drop and another aneurysm to pop. And I feel sheepish about having had such a Serious Illness, almost like I didn’t deserve something so important (hmmmm, think I should follow that line of thinking?).

]]> By: Darryle http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Darryle Mon, 15 Dec 2008 19:24:32 +0000 http://darrylepollack.com/?p=40#comment-71 Completely agree with what you say here. Though I don't know who you are, I suspect you learned by experience--the way most of us learn this lesson ultimately. Took me most of my life to learn it but I feel grateful that I finally did. Thank you for adding your words of wisdom here--you perfectly summed up my feelings about being a victim. Completely agree with what you say here. Though I don’t know who you are, I suspect you learned by experience–the way most of us learn this lesson ultimately. Took me most of my life to learn it but I feel grateful that I finally did. Thank you for adding your words of wisdom here–you perfectly summed up my feelings about being a victim.

]]> By: ler http://blog.darrylepollack.com/2008/12/why-me/comment-page-1/#comment-72 ler Mon, 15 Dec 2008 15:51:06 +0000 http://darrylepollack.com/?p=40#comment-72 a question like Why Me can often times keep us stuck in victimland. we can remain a victim of our circumstances or we can ask the question in reverse--why not me? just like you did. Being and remaining a victim-it's so normal, of course-keeps the cycle going-it perpetuates feelings of anger and rage.it's a healthy question to ask and it's also a healthy one to let go of when the time is right. When we can break free from being a victim and instead say "what can i take from this?what is g-d trying to teach me here?" we become empowered to see our role and how we have a choice to stand up or sit down. a question like Why Me can often times keep us stuck in victimland. we can remain a victim of our circumstances or we can ask the question in reverse–why not me? just like you did. Being and remaining a victim-it’s so normal, of course-keeps the cycle going-it perpetuates feelings of anger and rage.it’s a healthy question to ask and it’s also a healthy one to let go of when the time is right. When we can break free from being a victim and instead say “what can i take from this?what is g-d trying to teach me here?” we become empowered to see our role and how we have a choice to stand up or sit down.

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